It’s Too Hard!
3 ‘Must Do’ Tips for Coping
Storms are super distracting and can easily derail us from seeing God clearly.
I have found 3 ways that help me cope with tough times.
1. Pursue God FIRST.
I read God’s words with a deep desire to know Him more.
When we approach God with a pure desire to know him, he blesses us with understanding that we didn’t even know we needed.
Resist going to all those other things first.
2. Seek WISE counsel.
When times are tough, it’s so easy to go to a friend–or just about anyone–and vent. Oh, we love to vent. Especially we women love to get it ALL out. We seem to feel better when we just “chat it out.”
Venting can easily becoming gossiping or produce a complaining spirit, and that only makes matters worse.
AND, if we choose to speak to someone who is not like-minded, we can be led to respond to hard times in a way that will only darken the situation more and more.
The Bible tells us to seek wise counsel.
(Psalm 1:1, Proverbs 12:15)
And it also tells us that wisdom comes from God. (Proverbs 2:6)
So, that means we need to be very careful about who we share our problems with or whom we seek advice from. According to the above verses, we are to seek out godly wisdom from friends, family or professionals that follow our same belief system.
Coping well includes being surrounded and supported by people that will help you seek God first and follow His ways.
Don’t be deceived by the ways of the world. Seek wise counsel, friends.
3. Lean IN.
For many people, tough situations and hard times are something they prefer to just “forget about.” It seems easier to stuff it down, “let it go,” and move on.
Unfortunately, difficult things that require healthy coping skills rarely just “go away.”
They are usually things that need to be worked through, healed from, or forgiven.
They take time. Oftentimes, they are a process of healing rather than a quick fix.
Stuffing them down, ignoring them, or repressing them will likely lead to further hurt and frustration down the road.
What’s the alternative? Lean in.
See the problem or hurt and face it head on.
Take the time to follow #1 (Pursue God First) and #2 (Seek Wise Counsel). Learn and grow from this hard time. Allow the mess to be a message… for yourself or others.
It’s tempting to suppress difficult experiences, but it’s healing and life-giving to face them and experience the blessing God has planned for you through them.
Rather than choosing to ignore difficulties, lean in to them.
Friends, coping with difficult life experiences is not easy. But it can be easier when you choose healthy coping skills. These 3 ‘must do’ tips for coping are proven to help you get through hard times with grace, love, and forgiveness.
Pursue God, seek wise counsel, and lean in.
You will be amazed at how God can work ALL things for His good.